Wednesday, March 28, 2018

Setting Boundaries is an Important Part of Being Healthy

It took years for me to learn how to set boundaries and even understand what the heck that meant.

Think of a boundary as a shield of protection around you providing health and happiness. Setting boundaries is an important part of self-love and not allowing others to treat you in an unhealthy way. Do you struggle with setting boundaries?


The Struggle is Real

When boundary setting is not demonstrated for us as children, it's usually a struggle to grasp as an adult. The sacrifice of self to the point of mistreatment by others can be the result if boundary setting is not put into place.

Boundaries make a clear statement of what is not acceptable or allowed in your life. When those lines are crossed, it's a painful process for the one that has been wronged. Sometimes clear communication of the broken boundary can resolve the conflict. Other instances will require radical choices of removing ourselves from the situation altogether. The most uncomfortable part of a broken boundary is the trust once there before now replaced with doubt or fear.

Learning to Set Boundaries

Learning to set boundaries can feel difficult. Sometimes, you may need help with the process. Looking into a few visits with a qualified licensed therapist/counselor could be a great place to start. Other avenues to explore are support groups, church guidance, etc. 

Learning and applying healthy boundaries provides a self-confidence, strength, and overall feeling of worthiness never experienced before. It will seem as if life has begun in a truly healthy way for the first time. 


Stay True to Your Boundaries

Once boundaries have been set, it's important to honor yourself by remaining true to those decisions. This means not allowing anyone or anything rob you of your shield of self-love. Even the best of boundary setter can backslide and be tempted into old patterns.

Letting your guard down could mean trusting someone to the point of not honoring a boundary. This usually opens old doors and wounds often resulting in anger, resentment, and hurt. Personal shame is also felt for allowing it to happen again. The feeling of failing yourself can be overwhelming.


Why Boundaries are Important

Boundaries teach you how to respect yourself enough to know how you want to be treated. It also dictates what is acceptable in your life. Boundaries remove your doormat mentality and replace it with a security door of emotional strength. It gives you the ability to make healthy and often tough choices necessary dealing with circumstances in life.  

Emotional health is a large part of your physical health. Being able to set boundaries is an important part of being a healthy personIt's about setting limitations and expectations for your life. The journey of learning can be a tough one, but the positive result will be the ability to love yourself. 

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Be well and Stay Healthy
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